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Plain and Simple for Oct. 4, 2012
SoVaNow.com / October 02, 2012My mother’s birthday was Oct. 1, this past Monday. It is difficult to believe that she had been gone now for eight years. There are still many days when I will feel so full of the vagaries of life that I just have to call her to discuss them. But she is not on the other end of the line anymore.
Just this past Friday I rode with the police as a Chaplain. We had to pick up an eighty-eight year-old man who was a WWII combat veteran. He was being taken in for a psychiatric evaluation and he was not very happy as you might imagine. I understood that it had to be done and the police officers were extremely kind and patient. Still, the kind of world where this type of thing happens is not pleasant. Talking to my mother always made it more so.
My mother was the glue of my family. I adored my father. He had the most fantastic sense of humor and he almost never got upset. He found laughter in everything. My mother, especially early in my life, could be very intense. But she held everything together. She had the sheer force of will to say that nothing could or would break up our family and you somehow knew that was true.
None of us is perfect; my mother certainly was not. As I mentioned, I remember the early days when she had a temper that you had better not cross. But I guess it might have had something to do with having four kids to take care of and working in Dan River Mills on the side. One of the things that I most admired about her was that she was able to change. When she became a Christian, she blossomed. She became much more socially oriented and her temper basically disappeared. She found peace in this world and in the next.
She was even able to change her ideas about the world. So many of us are stuck with our prejudices but she was open to new ideas. She loved to study and continually opened her mind to new things. I do not know if I am as open as she was, but I hope so.
My mother was an indomitable spirit. She nurtured us and sustained us.
Even now, these long years after she has left us, I feel a void.
I was blessed to have her as a mother and miss her still.
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